On deleting the r word

Saturday, March 5, 2016

that's so retarded.  why would anyone do that?

Words written across the screen by an old college friend on a status 
I was tagged in stung me. to. the. core.  
Let me set this up for you.  I'm not an overly offended person to words.  In fact, I think that's part of our problem in today's society.  We're too emotional.  We're too defensive.  We wear our feelings on our shoulders.  We're too hyper-vigilant to having someone out there offend us.  

It needs to stop.  

But the word retarded also needs to be deleted from your vocabulary.  I will throw my own self under the bus and say I have used it 10,000 too many times in my lifetime.  What can I say, I'm a work in process.  I pray everyday that I'm a better person than the day before. 

As a kid, as a teenager, as a young adult, as a new parent even.  I didn't know.  

I didn't know I would have this amazingly gorgeous thing in my life.  I didn't know that she would have cerebral palsy, autism, be non-verbal still at the age of 5.  I didn't know she would be feeding tube dependent, have severe cognitive deficits.  Be intellectually disabled.  I didn't know she would have mental retardation.  Yes, that's a diagnosis still.  I didn't know.  And it shouldn't matter that I didn't know.  Because she's a person.  She's someone more than worthy of love.  And a person more than worthy to be respected enough to omit the word from your vocabulary.

This is one of the hardest things I've ever written and I'm just going to say how I feel.  Because I'm southern and that's how we do things.   

Please know, these words don't flow from my tongue and they certainly aren't coming easy to type.  I hate to make such a drastic comparison, but it's certainly merited.  And I probably shouldn't be writing a blog post with such righteous anger, but well.  Here goes. 

If no one else will say it, I will.  

Just as you shouldn't use the words nigger, fag or the likes because those words are derogatory, hurtful, and incredibly  offensive to you OR someone you love, don't.use.retard.

With tears streaming down my face, just stop.   

And if you feel the need, in the year 2016, to still be using all of the above words. 


Bless your heart.


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