I just want to be ME

Tuesday, September 18, 2012


I wish I could take credit for this, but I have to give that to Beth Moore and her son-in-law. The night I heard this, it was made a staple in our bedtime routine with the girls. It's such a special time for us and works wonders on my oldest whose "Love Language" is hands down Words of Affirmation.

Every single night after jammies are put on, after the girls are tucked in their beds, after our Bible story is done, after our prayers and bedtime stories are said, I softly whisper to each of my wonderfully amazing daughters.....

Do you know how much God loves you?

Do you know how much I love you?

Do you know how PROUD I am to be your Mommy?

Do you know you can be anything in the world you want to be?

Each girl waits patiently and quietly for their turn. I love their precious eyes staring at me with great anticipation of the next word, even though they know them all by heart now.

To be honest, these have been just words until recently. Meaningful words, I promise you. I have meant every one of them. But I never recognized the full extent of the meaning of these words until a few weeks ago. After I finished telling Ava all of the above, she sweetly responded....

I just want to be me.

What a response from my three year old. I just want to be me. She has since said it every single night. The confidence in my middle child is uncontrollable at times. I wish I could scrap some of it off and give it to all of us. There is nothing in the world greater than that plus the confidence of knowing that they were each made perfect in God's image. That self-assurance of who they are and who they are in Christ will allow them, even long down the road, to take the necessary risks to learn, grow, and be successful.

Ava's single comment tore down the walls and made me realize that I really don't want to mold them into who I or my husband or even society wants them to be. I want them to each be their own person. Our children will gain more self-confidence when we as their parents recognize their uniqueness and keep our hopes for them appropriate, meaning, in line with their God given talents and potential. At the root of all that, I have a special needs child who may or may not be capable of many of the things her big sisters are capable of doing. I'm not going to limit her potential by any means, but I also want her to have the same confidence in who she is in this family and this world.

And all it takes are a few nightly affirmations and more positive parenting on my end. I'm up for the challenge, trust me. After all, we have three extremely beautiful girls (and even sweeter than they are beautiful) who will one day turn into three extremely beautiful teenagers and then young women. If John and I miss the boat, I don't even want to imagine how those years will go down.

I just want to be me.

How do you instill confidence in your children on a daily basis? I'd love to hear from you regarding this very subject.  I would also encourage you to find your child’s love language by reading The Five Love Languages of Children.  
 
That knowledge it powerful I tell ya! 
 
Just because I needed a picture....this is sisterly love at its best
 


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